February 2011, Heber Down Conservation AreaI was in shock when I entered her room. Her ashen body lay lifeless on the hospital bed. Frail. Faint. Two months ago this sharp, coherent, English woman was much more cognizant of her surroundings. What happened?
Every week for about 2 years I grocery shopped for Jean Fugol, a senior confined to her home. It may sound strange but I LOVE grocery shopping. So I eagerly anticipated this time each week where I would have a visit with Jean and then shop for her needs. Some weeks she was full of chatter and would share of her days gone by. I quickly learned Jean was a very wise woman and I enjoyed hearing of her life in England before immigrating to Canada.
Advice flowed eagerly and gently from her lips. I am thankful I was taught to revere the elderly at an early age. Those who have gone on before us are rich in knowledge and I welcome their life stories and advice. One thing Jean always said to me was, "enjoy your life now and travel before your body does not allow you anymore." I heeded her advice! She loved to hear of my travel adventures, especially to Paris! Jean also LOVED the way I dressed and told me she was living vicariously through me!
Jean had minor surgery in the summer and never fully recovered. I really don't know why. I think it was a combination of limited care in the hospital and the fact Jean just gave up on life. She told me her family rarely visited her, in fact, I think I visited her more than her family and my visits weren't as frequent as I wanted. This loneliness and rapid decline in her health was sad to watch.
So many elderly in nursing homes and hospitals are left alone by their family members. It is a shame. A shame that they who gave birth to their children, who sacrificed everything for their children, end up alone. A shame. A tragedy really.
Jean died last week. I know she is in a much better place now and I know this English woman is full of vibrant joy once again!
Jean, you'll be happy to know I'm planning another travel adventure soon! Rest in peace my friend. I love you and miss you!
For Jean...
Kensington Market, vintage shops, Toronto, ON, May 2009:)
4 comments:
Thank you for your very kind and caring words about dear Betty...I truly appreciate them more than I can say...
And indeed---Life gets harder and harder as one gets older and your body starts to betray you....This was a very sweet Tribute to your friend Jean...!
@OOLOTH You are so welcome my bloggy friend! You hang in there! In my thoughts and prayers!
Karyne,
What a very special tribute to your friend. I admire you so much for all that you do for so many people. I'm sure your friendship enriched Jean's life.
Love,
Carol.
@Carol Thanks my sweet (no pun intended my candy supplier!)friend. You are kind! Love you...can't wait to help with the shower!!
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